On Anger and Behavior

Today’s Mental Health Quick Post:

Anger is a valid and important emotion. The things people do when they’re angry are not necessarily valid or important. One of the most important goals of adulthood is to be able to feel strong emotions and *respond* to them vs. *react* to them.

Expanding the idea:

Emotional intelligence is a skill that you can develop, not something that is inborn. Anger is. It’s an emotion, something that happens in response to something in your life. You have no control over feeling anger. However, you have a choice to use anger or allow it to use you. If you find yourself reacting in anger in ways that aren’t serving your life, seek out the help you need to fix that. Build a cabinet full of coping skills that help you use that anger instead of allowing it to set fire to your life.

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